Actionmaxims Blog There's ALWAYS Another Dick Lurking In The Shadows

One of the most damaging fallacies men have adopted through social conditioning and other than programming and their own delusional fantasies is the idea of a woman taking him as her ONE AND ONLY and forsaking all other men. Men have been sold the lie that relationships are about monogamy, having each other’s backs, and building something together. It’s about having the exclusive benefit of someone who has reserved a special form of intimacy for one person. It’s about trusting that someone has both feet planted in the space of a committed relationship. But, there’s a problem with this lie.It sets them up for severe, debilitating, psychological pain once the curtain gets yanked back unexpectedly and he stares reality in the face and realizes, maybe for the first time, that his fantasy was just that, a fantasy. Exposing oneself to The Beautiful Truth enables one to fully utilize this newfound awareness and common sense as psychological armor. It’s no secret that women always have more options than men when it comes to the sexual marketplace. In today’s world of social media and other outlets, women are presented with an endless buffet of choices and non-stop offers to hop on a joystick. But, what happens when men and women enter into an exclusive, monogamous relationship? Are the parties involved living in the true spirit of what that means? The answer may or may not be surprising.Let’s take a look at the graphic above that was based on a poll. Now, keep in mind as we look at the breakdown that the respondents probably weren’t entirely truthful in that I mean the answers were skewed towards lower percentages based on a woman’s proclivity to downplay and minimize the machinations of their sexual strategy. I direct your attention to two particular stats. Forty-three percent (43%) of the respondents in this poll admitted to having a backup man if her relationship with you ends. Now, based on my own experience of catching women in the act, I believe that number to be much higher due to the proclivity of women to lie about their notch count and other things. It’s a safe bet and indeed prudent for a man to assume that if he’s in a relationship or dating a woman, he’s not her only focus of male attention. She has options. Now, you do too but you entered into this thing with the understanding that the two of you were exclusive. After all, isn’t that what she wanted when she broached the subject with you?Fifty-percent (50%) of the respondents said their partner was aware of the backup man. Now, I believe this number to be much lower because it’s in her interest to keep this a secret. But, let’s just assume that figure is correct. In what world is this acceptable and why are men allowing themselves to be disrespected in this way? What to do? It’s fraught with difficulty.A man could take the route of ignoring it because to bring it up and demand that it stop, he would be subjected to shaming tactics such as “you’re an insecure man, he’s just a friend”. He also would be accused of being controlling among other things. It’s a no win situation, and they know it. Your only real options are to walk or keep your emotional distance if you stay in that relationship. I once was in an exclusive relationship where she kept getting texts from fools she was stringing along before she met me. Now, to be fair, she wasn’t responding to them (at least on that platform) but it was still a nice source of attention and validation for her. We had a conversation about it and I asked if the roles were reversed, what would be the wise choice for me to do.An agreement was made to delete the text thread, block the number, and delete the number. Problem solved, right? Not so fast. What about social media, other texting apps, etc.? And, that’s why she so readily agreed. When we broke up, it was relayed to me via her flying monkeys (since I had blocked her on every platform) that she had a new dude. Of course, she did. And the description of said dude strongly indicated that it was one of the orbiters I attempted to shut down. Now, she’s HIS problem.The point is this men. Before you start getting the feels and give your heart to a woman, understand that she always has the back up plan anxiously waiting in the wings. It is what it is. This isn’t an attack on women, it’s a call for awareness, so you don’t get blindsided and have your heart stomped on when your sweetheart isn’t getting what she thinks she’s entitled to or simply gets bored.View the YouTube video at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=isQYd-vcahE